Wednesday, March 30, 2011

words of advice for myself

So I have been collecting some little bits of advice here and there and saving them on my phone lately. Most of these tid-bits are things that I have realized myself through reflection or self-revelation and felt compelled to write these thoughts down, or have heard or read somewhere and wanted to save. I figured I would put them here, especially since it has been ages since I posted anything. So here they are, exactly as they appear on my phone.

* Look at the Challenges and trials of your life as opportunities, not as risks or reasons to get discouraged

* Don't be afraid of what you are feeling. Don't run from it. You don't need to dwell on it, but just observe it and learn from it.

* Look at your emotions and your thoughts with a sense of curiosity.

* Stay present and let yourself feel what you are feeling without judgment.

* Stay in the present. Don't worry about the future, don't dwell in the past.

* You can decide to not let things bother you.

* Try to enjoy yourself. Life is about the experience

* Suffering is teaching me, it is a learning experience.

* Don't examine your feelings! Think about things that have nothing to do with how you feel (<-I said this as just a method to get out of my head when I am feeling overwhelmed)

* Don't be afraid to be who you are (<- Devin Townsend)

* No matter how bad you are feeling, it will go away.

* Your worrying is the cause of your pressure.

* Think about all the things you are blessed with, you have so much to be thankful for and its really easy to lose sight of that.

* Appreciate what you have, not what you want. (<-Someone's post on facebook)

* The grass always seems greener on the other side.

* Having expectations for how you want things to be doesn't allow them to be the way that they are.

* There is nothing to worry about. You will be ok. (<- Something I tell myself when feeling overwhelmed, to calm myself down)

* Stop trying to examine how your feeling and just let yourself feel.

* You are in it, not of it.

* The only way to it is through it.

* Be in the moment.



So ya, lots of common themes there, being in the moment and staying present probably being the biggest one. Its an important thing to remember. Acceptance is so important when dealing with difficult things, it is easy to get overwhelmed and sometimes it is best to just observe things with a sense of curiosity, and just label your thoughts as thoughts rather than criticizing yourself for having those thoughts